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If Someone Says 'You Complete Me,' RUN!: 12/10/18
If Someone Says “You Complete Me," RUN! by Whoopi Goldberg is part memoir and part self help book. Goldberg uses the outline of her adult life to give relationship and self esteem advice.
I admit that I came for the memorable title but I stayed for the straight up, oft-times brutal advice. Basically, the take away is, don't get in a relationship with someone who wants you to be their better or missing half.
Now, of course, that advice doesn't take into account people with mental health issues — depression, OCD, anxiety, etc. All those things can make it hard to love oneself and to feel like one is giving an equal amount to a relationship. Her advice isn't saying don't fall in love if you're not 100% happy or self confident or don't fall in love with someone who isn't either of those things.
Instead, the advice is to avoid those toxic people who gaslight or abuse the power dynamic. Avoid those who talk a good talk and know how to push all the right buttons, because they probably know how to push all the wrong ones too and will eventually.
The final take away, is that it is okay to be single. A person doesn't need a relationship or a marriage to be a "complete person."